Ontario Superior Court of Justice

Court File No.: FS-18-92838
Date: 2025-03-24

Between:

A.C.
Applicant
Counsel: J. Lagoudis

-and-

K.C.
Respondent
Self-Represented

Heard: March 3, 2025

Reasons for Judgment
Lemay J.

Introduction

[1] The parties met in 2010, were married on July 7, 2012, and had a difficult on-and-off relationship until they finally separated for good on August 1, 2018. There was one child of the marriage, D.C., who is currently twelve years old. The Applicant (A.C.) was found to have engaged in domestic violence against the Respondent (K.C.). The allegations were serious and were set out in a decision of Mandhane J.: 2023 ONSC 6017.

[2] That decision ordered that the Respondent mother would have sole decision-making authority. However, the decision also set out that the child of the marriage needed to participate in a specific type of therapy recommended by the OCL, known as family systems therapy. It also set out a parenting schedule that included overnight parenting time for the Applicant. Neither of these orders are currently being complied with by the Respondent. The therapy order has never been complied with, and compliance with the parenting time order ceased a year ago.

[3] As a result, the Applicant brought a motion under Rule 1(8) to enforce the decision of Mandhane J. Specifically, the Applicant sought an order requiring the resumption of parenting time, for D.C. to engage in the family systems therapy recommended by the OCL, and for the Applicant to be kept apprised of D.C.’s well-being. The Applicant raised other issues, but those were resolved prior to the appearance before me.

[4] The Respondent brought a counter-motion seeking a series of orders. By the time the motion was heard before me, the Respondent’s issues had been reduced to the following: a specific time for a telephone call when D.C. was with the Applicant, a process whereby D.C. could cancel his overnight visits with the Respondent unilaterally, and an order requiring communications between the parties to be in a respectful manner.

[5] For the reasons that follow, the relief sought by the Respondent is dismissed and the relief sought by the Applicant is generally, although not entirely, granted. I remain seized to address issues in respect of the implementation of the family systems therapy as well as to ensure that the parenting time is restored. I also retain jurisdiction to address the ancillary issues.

Background

a) The Parties and the Relationship

[6] The parties had a seven-day trial before Mandhane J., and each of them provided detailed viva voce evidence. Mandhane J.’s decision sets out a detailed factual summary of the events in this case, and I have relied on that factual summary and the decisions made by Mandhane J. in reaching my conclusions on this motion. As a result, I will set out a summary of the facts that are most relevant to my decision.

[7] The Applicant was originally from Australia. He and the Respondent met in Australia in 2010, and he immigrated to Canada. Since coming to Canada, he has started to work as an investment advisor. He has re-partnered and currently lives in Burlington with his new partner and their two daughters, who are 5 years and 9 months old respectively.

[8] The Respondent has a child from a previous marriage, who is around twenty years old. The Respondent was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (“CFS”) in 2009. She had some sporadic part-time jobs during the parties’ marriage, but she has not worked since the end of the marriage. She is currently receiving ODSP benefits. She is also receiving $1,121 per month in spousal support from the Applicant.

[9] D.C. is currently twelve years old and has anxiety and regulation issues. In December of last year he was diagnosed with Separation Anxiety disorder with mild depressive symptoms. The diagnosing psychiatrist noted that this was in the “setting of parental separation”.

[10] The parties only lived together for a total of approximately eighteen months. First, for a month before D.C was born in January of 2013 and then for a period of less than eighteen months when D.C. was between seven and eight years old.

[11] During the marriage, the Applicant was twice charged criminally. On the first occasion, in 2013, he was charged for threatening the maternal grandparents. On the second occasion, in 2017, the Applicant was charged with assaulting the Respondent. On both occasions, the charges were withdrawn after the Applicant entered into a peace bond. On the second occasion, the Applicant also completed the Partner Assault Response program.

[12] The second incident is set out in detail in the reasons of Mandhane J. starting at paragraph 42 and following. It details the fact that the parties were generally not living together after 2017, and that the Applicant was having parenting time with D.C. This Application was filed in August of 2018, and it was at that point that the Respondent determined that the relationship was over for good.

[13] In her decision, Mandhane J. notes (at paragraph 47) that there have been no incidents of violence since separation, that the Applicant has travelled with D.C. on his own for a week at a time, that no violence has been reported by D.C. and that the Applicant has always abided by Court orders.

[14] During the course of the litigation, the parties had some appearances in Court as the Respondent sought to home-school D.C. while the Applicant wanted D.C. to attend the local Catholic school. In January of 2022, Dennison J. ordered that D.C. be enrolled in a public school where the Respondent lived. The Respondent failed to comply with this Order, and the Applicant brought a contempt motion in March of 2022. Dennison J. found that the three elements of contempt as set out in Carey v. Laiken, 2015 SCC 17, [2015] 2 S.C.R. 79 were made out, but declined to make a finding of contempt. A.C. v. K.C., 2022 ONSC 1844. She made other orders in respect of parenting time and the children. She also sanctioned the Respondent with a significant costs award.

[15] As part of the parties’ ongoing litigation, the Office of the Children’s Lawyer (“OCL”) became involved in this file. A report was prepared and testimony from the OCL was provided at trial. This report and the related testimony provided a significant foundation for the reasons of Mandhane J. I now turn to that decision and the events that have taken place since it was released.

b) Events Since the Decision of Mandhane J.

[16] The parties were engaged in contentious litigation for quite a number of years after the separation in August of 2018. After five years, they proceeded to trial in September of 2023. The decision was issued on October 24, 2023. There was some back and forth between the parties as to the content of the Order, but it was ultimately settled.

[17] A detailed series of orders were made on a final basis. The orders that are most relevant to the decisions I have to make are:

• The Respondent to have sole decision-making authority, except for a requirement that D.C. attend a publicly-funded Catholic school in Peel Region.
• The Applicant is entitled to make inquiries and be given information about D.C. from people involved with D.C., including doctors, school officials, counselors and the like.
• The Applicant and Respondent were to undergo counselling as recommended by the OCL.
• D.C. was to undergo counselling and a psychiatric assessment as recommended by the OCL. The OCL report was to be shared with the counselor and assessor.
• Any retained assessors/counsellors shall have a family-systems approach to the family’s issues and be able to provide both individual and family treatment.
• All individual and family-systems based therapy shall commence no later than January 8, 2024.

[18] After this decision was released, there were then a series of events that are relevant to the decisions I have to make. Those events can be divided into parenting events and counselling events.

Parenting Events

[19] The parenting schedule in the final Order was as follows:

35. The Applicant shall have parenting time with [D.C.] as follows:
    (a) on alternate weekends from Friday after school until drop off at school on Monday;
    (b) subject to [D.C.]'s discretion, on Wednesday evenings from after school until 8:00 p.m.; and
    (c) at any other times that the parties may agree upon.

36. The Applicant's parenting time with [D.C.] shall be extended to start either Thursday after school if the Friday is a P.D. day, and/or end on Tuesday drop off at school when the statutory holiday or P.D. Day falls on a Monday.

[20] In addition to these provisions, there were provisions that governed holidays, March break and summers. In particular, there was a considerable amount of time in the summer that D.C. was supposed to spend with the Applicant. All of this flowed from the decision of Mandhane J.

[21] From the release of the reasons until March break of 2024 the parenting time proceeded in accordance with the parenting time schedule that had been ordered. However, D.C. was to spend March break with the Applicant, and he did so. The first two days of March break (the 8th and 9th) were fine. On the third day, D.C. was told by the Applicant that he was to turn off the television. D.C., who has anxiety and regulation issues, was upset and threw up. He then called the Respondent and said he wanted to come home.

[22] The Applicant was not prepared to let D.C. return to the Respondent’s house. Although the Applicant stated that he had been prepared to let D.C. go home in the past when he was sick, the Applicant did not believe that D.C. was sick on this occasion. D.C. remained with the Applicant for the remainder of the March break.

[23] For the remainder of the week, D.C. would phone the Respondent on a daily basis. If I were to accept the evidence in the Respondent’s Affidavit, I would accept that D.C. was sick for most of this time period. For reasons that I will return to, I do not accept the Respondent’s description of events.

[24] After the events of March break, the Respondent took the position that D.C. was unwilling to have overnight parenting time because of the CAS report that had been made by Ms. Artt as a result of the events of March break. Then, the Respondent advised that D.C. did not want to return to regular overnight parenting time because he was scared of the Applicant who was mean to his new partner and that the Applicant had hurt his eldest daughter. I will deal with these allegations below.

[25] The Applicant was of the view that the parenting time should resume but stated (in an e-mail exchange) “in light of the CAS involvement at this time, I can be flexible.” The Applicant made it clear that he would be seeking make-up time eventually.

[26] Between March break and the hearing of this motion one year later, there have been less than twenty (20) parenting time visits. None of these visits have been overnight. The Respondent seems to be arguing that overnight visits should only resume if D.C. is not exposed to conflict or disparaging comments about his parents, that his phone remains connected to the network and in his possession and if D.C. has discretion to decide whether he remains at the Applicant’s or not.

Counselling Events

[27] The Respondent enrolled D.C. with a counsellor by the name of Darlene Artt in March of 2023, approximately six months before the trial before Mandhane J. The Respondent did not tell Mandhane J. that she had unilaterally enrolled D.C. in counselling. Indeed, at trial, the Respondent criticized the Applicant for refusing consent for D.C. to participate in counselling. Therefore, in outlining the history of counselling, it is necessary to consider some pre-trial events. In my analysis of the issues in respect of counselling, I will return to my significant concerns about the Respondent’s conduct.

[28] The OCL issued their report on February 2, 2023. That report sets out a number of recommendations in respect of therapy. A summary of those recommendations is as follows:

• A psychiatric assessment and counselling was recommended for D.C. The OCL assessor thought, correctly, that D.C. had anxiety as well as a lingering grief response to his parents’ separation.
• A recommendation that the Respondent needed to be involved in the therapy so she could “change her pattern of reinforcing her own and [D.C.]’s fears with avoidance and learn to encourage him to learn coping strategies to tolerate the anxiety”.
• A recommendation that the Applicant would benefit from counselling support to find the balance between helping D.C. achieve independence and demonstrating an understanding of D.C.’s anxiety.
• A recommendation that any assessor/counselor be able to review the OCL report, have a family systems approach to the issues and be able to provide both individual and family treatment.

[29] There was an exchange of e-mails about therapy between the parties in February and March of 2023. The Applicant suggested using the Reach Out Centre for Kids (“ROCK”), and provided the Respondent with an intake form and with a detailed e-mail from staff at ROCK. The Respondent did not consent to ROCK providing services.

[30] At the end of February, the Respondent identified Ms. Darlene Artt as a counsellor. The Applicant withheld his consent to Ms. Artt. He has now explained that the reason for his unwillingness to agree to Ms. Artt was that it was his understanding that she does not offer (and did not offer) the family systems therapy that had been suggested by the OCL. In spite of the Applicant withholding his consent for Ms. Artt to provide therapy, she began providing therapy at the end of February, 2023.

[31] Part of the materials that were produced on this motion was a “psychotherapy treatment plan” prepared by Ms. Artt on May 23, 2023. There is no indication in this report that Ms. Artt read the OCL report at the time that she accepted the referral, although the treatment plan makes it clear that she is aware that the OCL is involved with the family.

[32] At trial, Mandhane J. made orders in respect of therapy. As I will review in detail below, those orders were made with an incorrect understanding: that D.C. was not engaged in therapy because the Applicant would not consent to it. The Applicant tried to follow up on the therapy that was ordered by Mandhane J. after the decision was released but has been unsuccessful in doing so.

[33] On March 5, 2024, the Applicant inquired with the Respondent as to whether D.C. had been enrolled in counselling yet. The Respondent advised the next day that he had been enrolled in counselling. On March 11, 2024, the Applicant asked the Respondent to provide the name and contact information for the counsellor. There were then discussions back and forth about the counselling.

[34] On March 20, 2024, a complaint about the Applicant was filed with the Halton C.A.S. by D.C.’s counsellor, Ms. Artt. The complaint was that D.C. was being exposed to post-separation conflict. There was a subsequent complaint from Ms. Artt that the Applicant was exposing his two current children to intimate partner violence, and was using physical discipline with the older child. These complaints were apparently advanced based on information that D.C. had provided to Ms. Artt.

[35] On September 19, 2024, the Halton CAS closed the investigation and stated that they did not verify any of the child protection concerns that had been raised in the complaint. In the evidentiary record is an Affidavit from the Applicant’s current partner stating that those allegations are false. I do not have the complete CAS file, but for the purposes of this motion, I accept the CAS’s conclusion that the risk of harm was not verified.

[36] In the meantime, on June 18, 2024, the Applicant sought information from Ms. Artt about D.C.’s counselling. She denied this request on the basis that she was not providing the family systems treatment that the OCL had suggested, but the individual treatment that had been suggested by the OCL for D.C. She also took the position that D.C. was a mature minor and did not consent to the Applicant receiving any information about his counselling.

[37] The Applicant and his counsel continued to pursue this information from Ms. Artt. On August 29, 2024, Ms. Artt’s counsel wrote and advised that Ms. Artt was not prepared to provide the information that the Applicant was seeking for the following reasons:

• The Court order did not require that information to be provided.
• D.C. was a “mature minor” and had not consented to the disclosure of the information. Therefore, it could not be released.
• The release of the information is not in D.C.’s best interests.

[38] In the fall of 2024, the Applicant contacted other therapy providers and determined that more than one was prepared to offer the family systems therapy as proposed by the OCL. The Respondent continued to take the position that this therapy was not yet appropriate and should not be ordered. The Respondent also continued to take the position that the therapy would only be appropriate when D.C. was ready for it.

[39] In December of 2024, D.C. was assessed by a psychiatrist and was given a referral to the Trauma and Abuse Treatment Program at EveryMind, which is a service provider.

[40] Finally, shortly before this motion was heard, there was an exchange of correspondence between the Applicant and Ms. Artt. Part of that correspondence was a letter from Ms. Artt in which she seems to suggest that she provides family systems therapy in some circumstances. However, Ms. Artt confirms that she has not been providing family systems therapy.

Issues

[41] At the outset of the motion, I was advised that the parties had resolved three issues:

• The inclusion of a standard non-derogation term in a Court Order.
• General terms on the telephone use issue.
• Section 7 expenses.

[42] However, the parties had not resolved the other matters. The Applicant identified four issues that, in my view, can be condensed into the following three issues:

• The resumption of parenting time in accordance with the Order.
• An order requiring the Applicant to be kept informed about the child’s well-being.
• An order requiring the Applicant, the Respondent and D.C. to engage in the “family systems approach” to therapy. This issue, in my view, includes the involvement of the Applicant in D.C.’s counselling.

[43] The Respondent is seeking three orders, as follows:

• An order requiring that D.C. have his telephone access at 7:00 p.m. or at another time as agreed-to between the parties.
• An order that, if D.C. is in the care of the Applicant and wishes to return to the Respondent’s care because of either a physical issue or anxiety, that he shall be permitted to do so once a protocol has been followed.
• An order requiring that all communications between the parties are concise, information-based, child-centered, non-interpretive and non-accusatory.

[44] The issue of parenting time is related to both the timing of telephone calls and the protocol that the Respondent seeks in respect of D.C.’s ability to return to her care early from parenting time with the Applicant, so I will deal with all of those issues together.

[45] First, however, this motion is being brought after the Court has made a final Order that covers all of the issues in dispute between the parties. As a result, the Court’s jurisdiction is more limited than it would be in the first instance. I turn to the jurisdictional issue now.

Jurisdiction

[46] On the facts of this case, there are two bases on which the Court could intervene even though a final order is in place. First, if the test for a motion to change has been met, the Court could make a different Order than was made by Mandhane J. Second, if the Court is persuaded that the requirements of Rule 1(8) of the Family Law Rules, O. Reg. 114/99, as am. are met because a party is not complying with an Order, then the Court can intervene and make orders requiring compliance.

[47] I start with the test for a motion to change a final Order. The Divorce Act, R.S.C. 1985, c. 3, gives the Court the power to vary decision-making and parenting orders. There is no doubt that all of the changes sought by both parties relate to parenting and decision-making authority. However, the Court’s jurisdiction to change the orders is limited by section 17(5) of the Divorce Act, which states that the Court shall satisfy itself that “there has been a change in the circumstances of the child.”

[48] Changes must be material before the Court will make a new order. Gordon v. Goertz, 1996 191, [1996] 2 S.C.R. 27 at paras. 12 and 13. In order for a change to be material, it has to be one that would likely have resulted in a different order if it was known at the time the original decision was made. The change must also change the child’s needs, or the ability of the parents to meet those needs, in a material way. Willick v. Willick, 1994 26, [1994] 3 S.C.R. 670; Goertz at para. 12; Lopatowski v. Lopatowski, 2024 ONSC 3833 at para. 67.

[49] In my view, the requirements for a motion to change are not met by any of the relief that either party is seeking. There is no evidence of a significant change in D.C.’s needs. There is also no evidence of a change in the circumstances of either parent. The appropriate way to approach the facts before the Court is to consider whether the requirements under Rule 1(8) are met.

[50] This brings me to the test in Rule 1(8). That rule states:

(8) If a person fails to obey an order in a case or a related case, the court may deal with the failure by making any order that it considers necessary for a just determination of the matter, including, (a) an order for costs; (a.1) an order to pay an amount to a party or into court as a penalty or fine; (b) an order dismissing a claim; (c) an order striking out any application, answer, notice of motion, motion to change, response to motion to change, financial statement, affidavit, or any other document filed by a party; (d) an order that all or part of a document that was required to be provided but was not, may not be used in the case; (e) if the failure to obey was by a party, an order that the party is not entitled to any further order from the court unless the court orders otherwise; (f) an order postponing the trial or any other step in the case; and (g) a contempt order, if sought under rule 31.

[51] Rule 1(8) provides a broad discretion to the Court to make appropriate orders if there has been a breach by a person. This Court’s decision in Myers v. Myers, 2014 ONSC 1804 sets out a three-step approach to determining whether a Court should make an order under this Rule:

• Is there a triggering event that would allow consideration of Rule 1(8)?
• Is it appropriate to exercise discretion in favour of the non-complying party?
• Having determined not to exercise discretion in favour of the non-complying party, what is the appropriate remedy pursuant to the provisions of Rule 1(8)?

[52] These principles have been fleshed out over the years. The first issue, a triggering event, requires non-compliance with a Court order in “the case or a related case.” K.M. v. J.R., 2024 ONSC 1338 at para. 31.

[53] Once non-compliance has been found, the Court in K.M. summarized the jurisprudence on the second and third elements of the test at paragraphs 31(b) and (c):

b. If there has been a triggering event, the court should then determine whether it is appropriate to exercise its discretion in favour of the non-complying party by not sanctioning that party under subrule 1(8).

i. The onus is on the non-complying party to show why it would be appropriate for the Court to exercise its discretion in their favour. Pearce v. Kisoon, 2019 ONSC 4389; Gordon v. Starr, 2007 35527.

ii. This discretion should only be exercised in the non-compliant party’s favour in exceptional circumstances. Herman v. Rathbone, 2017 ONSC 4585; Antunes v. Antunes, 2022 ONSC 6450.

iii. The court's decision as to whether or not to exercise its discretion in favour of the non-complying party should take into account all relevant history of the litigation and, more specifically, the conduct of the non-complying party. Bullock v. Bullock, 2017 CarswellOnt 3802 (SCJ); Pearce v. Kisoon, 2019 ONSC 4389.

c. If the court determines it should not exercise its discretion in favour of the non-complying party, it is then left with the very broad discretion as to the appropriate remedy under Rule 1(8). Oliver v. Oliver, 2020 ONSC 2321; C. v. S., 2023 ONSC 2551. Relevant considerations include:

i. The proportionality of the sanction to the wrongdoing; ii. The similarity of sanctions in like circumstances; iii. The presence of mitigating factors; iv. The presence of aggravating factors; v. Deterrence.

C.J. v. E.J., 2021 ONSC 4853; Ferguson v. Charlton, 2008 ONCJ 1; Teixeira v. Teixeira, 2022 ONSC 6133.

[54] With this legal framework in mind, I now turn to the issues raised by the parties.

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Released: March 24, 2025

Robert Lemay